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Apr 1, 2019

Why perspective is the key to success

 

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Why perspective is the key to success

 

So much in life and in your business is all down to perspective. It really is a key skill that if you learn it, can propel you to success in business AND in life.  

 

According to the Oxford Dictionary Perspective is ‘A particular attitude towards or way of regarding something; a point of view’.

 

It’s also a ‘True understanding of the relative importance of things; a sense of proportion’.

 

Essentially it’s a way of thinking.

 

One is where you look at things based on your own experiences, values and beliefs.  And the other is when you put things into perspective by creating a comparison to make sure you’re looking at things from all angles to create an accurate opinion.

 

BOTH are hugely important when it comes to the way you look at and the way you think about life and your business.  It’s comes under the umbrella of emotional intelligence which is essentially being able to control and understand your own emotions.

 

Your thoughts, as we now know, literally shape your reality through creating your feelings and unconscious beliefs.  And in turn influencing your actions, so you can see perspective is a pretty key skill to master in this game.

 

And one you can learn...whoop!

 

Based purely on your perspective, BIG things can seem small and tiny things can seem ENORMOUS...so you can see how this can have an effect on the way we’re feeling day to day.

 

Perhaps you think your launch has been a flop.

 

Or perhaps you feel like you’re not moving fast enough.

 

Or you’re not making enough money.

 

All those lovely little ‘OMG WHAT AM I GOING TO DO, THE WORLD IS ENDING’ dramatic moments that come as part of the territory.

 

Whatever it may be, basically, perspective is a highly valuable life skill to master!  

 

In good times and not so good times.

 

It’s certainly something I use on a daily basis and keeps me on track.

 

When you can master it, it can change so much for you.  

 

The times where you’re in the weeds struggling, the times where you feel like the only one dealing with what you’re dealing with, the times when you feel like a failure!

 

It helps you take a step back, take out the emotion and see something for what it actually is.

 

Perspective cuts out the lies that you tell yourself and highlights things that are more truthful and  HELPFUL for you.

 

It helps you to see the opportunities that can often be right in front of you.

 

Without perspective it’s very easy to fall into ‘victim mode’ and nothing good ever happened from there!

 

It helps you open up your thinking and feeds a growth mindset so it helps drive you forwards instead of staying stuck.

 

I live my life believing that something good can always come from something that at the time feels or seems bad.  

 

That is a very empowering way to live life and run a business.  

 

The belief that everything happens for a reason, there’s always someone worse off than me, or has dealt with worse and come through the other side.

Or seeing people celebrate the little wins that I might not have even acknowledged.  Very handy if you’re feeling like nothing is going right, right?!

 

It allows me to be more objective and not get caught up in the negative loops and spirals and take a step back and find another way to do things.  And there’s always another way to do things!

 

It helps us remember that the way we see things is not always the way other people see things and vice versa which helps us seek out another perspective and again, help us to move forwards.

 

Perspective helps you realise what is actually important...and what’s not! So often I see people tie themselves in knots over things that actually really don’t matter in the grand scheme of things, but when it’s you in that moment it can feel huge.  

 

Being able to have perspective reminds you of that.  

 

It’s like I often say, you can’t control your first thought but you CAN control your second and perspective really helps you do that, it’s a big piece of the entrepreneurial puzzle in my opinion.  

 

It also helps you become much more resilient and help you move on more quickly with your positive pants firmly in tack.

 

So, if you’re not used to looking for it how do you gain it?!

 

Create the awareness first, then challenge the thinking and it’ll soon become a habit and your natural way of thinking.  It’ll go into that all important unconscious programming!

 

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself when you catch yourself in one of those negative loops or ‘why me, this is a disaster’ spirals!  

 

What am I telling myself that this means?  About my business and about me? Is it true?

 

What’s really the worst case scenario?  Is it that bad? What can I do about it?

 

What good could potentially come from this?

 

In the grand scheme of things will this matter in a month, a week, a day an hour?

 

What could be another way of looking at this?

 

What’s one more thing I could do to change or improve this situation?

 

If my best friend was in this situation right now what would I say to them?

 

If you were simply a casual observer watching this situation unfold, just having a nice people watch moment, what would you see?

 

When we can remind ourselves that many people are worse off than us it can give us that much needed perspective to not get caught up in our own BS.

 

Perspective really is SUCH  a valuable skill to have and one that you can absolutely learn, because I did.  I help my clients find it, I help them change the way they think so they always choose to look for it.

 

If you want to change something, or change the way you think or react to something then this will help hugely.

 

It can be hard to do on your own at first but just keep catching yourself in those little moments where you sense a spiral coming or you feel something negative has happened and just take a minute to really put it into perspective, look for the lessons and opportunities and see how much more empowered...and relaxed...you feel.

 

If you know that now is the time to start changing things for yourself and want to explore this further, have any questions or want some accountability to make sure you’re doing the things you need to then please book in a free discovery call so we can see what needs to happen to get you from where you’re at right now, to the successful business owner you know you can be!!

 

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